I am a habitual worrier…I think it’s part of this whole perfectionista thing I’ve got going on. I realize that worry is a wasted emotion (I know this because Jewel told me so in her ‘Spirit’ album back in the late 90’s) but for some reason I just can’t kick the habit. Worrying won’t help anything, it won’t change a situation or an event from occurring…it is not logical, it is emotional.
I often find myself asking questions like: Did I offend someone? Am I doing a good job? Did I make that person feel special on their birthday?
We’ve been taught to set goals for our careers and for our lives. When I find myself in a bout of worrisome questions, I try to remind myself of those life goals. I find it’s much easier to meet those life goals if I can keep it at a high level. For me, it’s to be happy, feel love, give love and be healthy.
Now, I understand those things are easier said than done – but if you find yourself in a state of unproductive worry, bring yourself back to those goals. Will worrying about how well you did on that presentation make you feel happy? Will worrying if you did enough for someone’s birthday make you feel love?
With all that said, I’m not saying one should stop trying to do great work or discontinue contributing to other people’s lives. I find happiness in professional successes and I feel joy in bringing other people joy. And that helps me reach one of my life goals of being happy. But worrying about whether I did enough after that fact is surely not a positive contributor.
Bottom line, find what makes you happy and try to forget the rest. Allow yourself to process your thoughts or feelings (worrisome or not) and then move on.
And when all else fails, make yourself a margarita and listen to Bob Marley – that always seems to do the trick for me!
xo – Kate
PS: Here is my favorite margarita recipe if you don’t have one of your own!
Muy delicioso margaritas:
- 1.5 ounces Tequila
- 1 ounce grapefruit juice
- 1 ounce fresh lime juice
- 1 ounce orange juice (I use Tropicana’s Trop50 when trying to cut down on sugar and calories)
- 1 ounce simple syrup
- .5 ounce Patrón Citrónge