I can’t remember a day when I was bored…and I always feel like there aren’t enough hours in the day. I feel like Jesse Spano from Saved by the Bell, “There’s no time! There’s never any time!” Yeah, I’m totally dating myself with that one… So maybe I’m not trying to get into Harvard like Jesse, but I am trying to get as much out of life as possible while maintaining some sanity and without getting hooked on caffeine pills like our dear friend, Miss Spano.
As I situate myself on my sun-drenched balcony drinking a beer and writing this post and about not having any time, I feel a little bit like a fraud. But in reality, I made time to sit down and write this post about never having any time. And I figured out a way to do so (ahem, on the balcony and with a beer) to make it even more relaxing.
In the middle of a hectic schedule though, it’s so hard to see through the clutter when in actuality, we all have time. We have 24 hours of it a day and over 10,000 minutes of it per week. We are the ones who decide how to spend it. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, it all comes down to priorities. Some of us have more to juggle or to prioritize, but there is still a decision to be made. Sometimes that means working late and sometimes that means spending it being completely lazy in bed on a Sunday morning. Random side note, I am a complete oxymoron—I freaking love to sleep. And yet I am also obsessed with being efficient and making good use of time. Yet another one of those things I’m working on!
Lucky for me, most of the activities that make up my week are incredibly fun! I’m one of those people who wants to be everywhere, all the time. I say yes to every social event (by the way, great BBQ this weekend, Ronda!), I volunteer for any project when a friend needs help and I completely overbook myself (and my husband sometimes…sorry, love). I enjoy being a part of people’s celebrations, their lives and helping them when I can. But admittedly, I tend to do too much. When it comes down to it, I have to hold myself accountable for feeling like I’m being pulled in various directions and at times, overwhelmed.
Almost all of us lead busy lives – some more than others. Honestly, I don’t know how you mamas and papas out there do it, so kudos to you! But it’s getting to the point where my days are so packed that it’s hard to slow down and really enjoy each moment- and I think it’s so important to try and be present. For someone like me who is always planning ahead, thinking about tomorrow and making sure I’m prepared for it, that’s no easy task.
In the middle of the hustle and bustle I try to hold myself accountable and live in the now. If I find myself going down the path of living for tomorrow and feeling overwhelmed by my schedule, I take a deep breath and a step back and find beauty and value in what I am doing that very moment. For example, if I am doing something as routine as laundry and find myself getting huff & puff (that’s our family terminology for ‘getting pissy’)……I think to myself how fortunate I am to have a washer and dryer in my apartment. I think of how grateful I am to have clean water to do my laundry. I find something to help me appreciate the moment. Those 10,000 minutes a week only come around once – I don’t want to spend them with my cranky pants on. I’m not saying we should put a ton of pressure on each moment (yet another tricky thing for perfectionistas) but find a way to enjoy each moment for what it is.
As I alluded to in a post from last week, those of us in our 30’s are in a unique phase of life and a busy one at that. We are finding ourselves professionally, deciding if we want to be parents, figuring out how to be parents, and celebrating a multitude of life’s milestones such as bridal showers, weddings, baby showers, kids birthdays, 30th birthdays, anniversaries and so on. All I know for sure is that life is not going to slow down any time soon. So figuring out how to enjoy it by prioritizing and not let it pass me by is my only choice.
When you’re feeling overbooked and overwhelmed just remember it really is in your control. I know finding time is tough but when you are feeling like you are too busy to enjoy life, find a way to take a break. Cancel your plans. Call a sitter. Call in sick. We all need a break now and then – and we all need to find some time for ourselves to simply be. As for me, I’m wrapping up this post and spending the rest of my balcony time with the Callie-girl.
xo – Kate